Where do your morals come from — your family? Your faith? Your philosophical worldview? How do you deal with those who don’t share them, or derive them from a different source?
Where do my morals come from? Now that is a great question! Yet, I had to think about it for a few minutes. Where DO my morals come from?
I do have morals. I have quite a few actually. But, let’s first look at the word itself. Morals, what does the word mean?
According to Wikipedia the definition is:
A moral (from Latin morālis) is a message conveyed or a lesson to be learned from a story or event. The moral may be left to the hearer, reader or viewer to determine for themselves, or may be explicitly encapsulated in a maxim.
From the Merriam-Webster online dictionary it is:
b : expressing or teaching a conception of right behavior <a moral poem>
c : conforming to a standard of right behavior
d : sanctioned by or operative on one’s conscience or ethical judgment <a moral obligation>
e : capable of right and wrong action <a moral agent>
Where did I learn these morals from? Some I suppose came from my parents. My parents were/are hard-working, honest people. They tried to distill that in their children. It took with some, not so much with others. Needless to say a few of my siblings have questionable morals. Hey, I only speak the truth.
Some of my morals came from just living life. I’ve been away from ‘home’ since I was 20. I’ve moved around a bit, lived in different states and now a different country. I’ve been in different personal relationships, one that was with a person with no distinguishing morals. If there is but one thing I learned from that relationship is what having no morals is something I can’t and won’t put up with. I did for more years than I should have with my ex. He taught me that having morals is a good thing, simply because he had none.
I have had some great friendships in my life. With people who were good people. They had big hearts, open minds, and great morals. They taught me to forgive people who have hurt me, to love myself, and to trust again. I can never repay those few friends who stood by me in my time of utter chaos and pain. They not only fed my heart, sometimes they literally fed my body. I would have been living on the streets starving if not for those few great friends.
I don’t lie, steal or cheat others. I don’t try to gain advantage from some others disadvantage. Have I done some things in the past that I regret? Yes, of course I have. Have I said things in the past intent on hurting someone? Again, yes I have. I’m far from perfect, but I try to change my ways for the better every day. Now I’m honest to people even if it means I don’t shine in a very positive light.
I am always an ongoing project. I will be till the day I die, then I hope to come back and try it again.
As for people who have different morals than me. Depends on the morals of that person, or lack of. I don’t deal with people who I think are liars, cheats or low lives. I try not to deal with negative people. They tend to depress me and to drain me. If someone lies to me, I will give them the benefit of the doubt, once. A second time, I will write them out of my life. Period. I don’t have time for liars, thieves or people who are constantly critical. I got enough of that growing up, I don’t need it now.
Different cultures have different morals I think. But the basics should always be there. Don’t kill, don’t lie and don’t steal and be kind to animals. Smaller ones we can work out. Not everyone is going to be my cup of tea. I’m not going to be everyone’s. That is life. We can all get along if we tried to communicate instead of just act out. Simple? Yes, yet very complicated. If we can meet on the basics, the rest will follow.
So I guess the answer to the morality question for me is, I was taught morals from different areas. Parents, friends, and life. Mostly from life though I would have to say. I have lived life to the fullest so far. I’m thinking the best is yet to come. I’m ready for it. To learn, to laugh, to love.
My morals come from being honest, loving, and forgiving myself when I fail. They come from just using good old common sense. If something is going to hurt someone or myself for no great reason, don’t do/say it.
I’m not a religious person. I simply see things as being hurtful or helpful. I believe in the spirit of love and light. And with that, may love and light always be yours.
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