Daily Prompt: Truth or Dare

Well I’ve spent most of my morning and early afternoon updating my blog. So far I’ve got the theme done and some other odds and ends. Let me know what you think.

On that note, todays daily post deals with honesty;

Is it possible to be too honest, or is honesty always the best policy?

I don’t think it’s possible to be 100% honest 100% of the time. We are all guilty of those infamous ‘little white lies’. According to the dictionary the definition of a lie is;

1. A false statement deliberately presented as being true; a falsehood.

2. Something meant to deceive or give a wrong impression.

When someone asks you if you like their new haircut and you hate it, what do you say? Are you going to say the truth? I doubt it. Why hurt that person’s feelings if a little white lie makes them feel good about themselves? See what I mean? How is it possible to be 100% truthful?

I try to be as truthful as I can. But, in that same sense I will not hurt someone’s feelings intentionally if a little white lie works better. So yes, I lie. A little, sometimes. Am I a liar? I don’t think so. I am trying to be a kind person and sometimes you have to make a choice between being honest and being kind. I would rather be kind.

That being said, I will sometimes not use those little white lies, if I think someone I care about is about to be hurt more if I wasn’t honest, then hurt for a few minutes with my honesty. If someone comes to me for advice, I will be honest with what I think. Then it is up to them to take my advice, or not.

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“A truth that’s told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent.”
― William BlakeAuguries of Innocence

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
― Mark Twain

I lived with a pathological liar for years. Believe me when I say I know what lies sound like.

What Is a Pathological Liar?

A pathological liar lies compulsively and impulsively, almost without thinking about the consequences of his action. He lies regularly on a spontaneous basis even if he gains no benefit from it, or even if he traps himself into it. A pathological liar cannot control his impulse to lie and it is usually a self-defeating trait.

He was narcissistic and everything (almost) that came out of his mouth was a lie. Unfortunately I didn’t learn that till it was too late. Ah, I was young and naive.

As I said, I don’t think it’s possible to be 100% truthful. One should strive to be as honest as possible though. Lying just breaks trust and it’s almost impossible to get that trust back.

I don’t understand people who lie for no reason, I really don’t. I think it would be hard to be a liar. How can you keep track of lies? They do have a tendency to grow. Then you’re covering lies with more lies. Terrible way to live.

So for me, I’ll be as honest as I can. I’m lazy, I don’t want to have to work that hard to keep the lies straight.

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26 thoughts on “Daily Prompt: Truth or Dare

  1. Dennis Prager often uses the example of what to say when your wife asks you how that color (or dress or whatever) looks on her and you don’t like it or it looks bad. 🙂 There are times when you need to tell someone a hurtful truth, but then you have to try to do it in the best way possible.

    janet

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  5. I guess you answered the question of truth or lies for me. I try to be as honest as I can, but no, I won’t be honest in a minor situation that would only hurt another. Love the look of your blog, it’s very different for you.

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  6. “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” Love it! So true…and House is the bastard that everyone loves. I really enjoyed is sarcastic patter and the medical jargon.

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  8. That was a very well thought out piece on “honesty” – I feel much the same way as you.
    I love “House” – after a few series had passed I even got used to Hugh Laurie (OBE) with an American accent!
    As for your new theme – I’ve only just started following you so I can’t compare how it looks with your last one, but this one looks good – very fresh and uncluttered.

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    1. Thank you. I wanted uncluttered, my last one was a bit messy. I like Hugh Laurie, but you’re right it took some getting used to seeing him talk American. He’s a great actor though and as House I loved his acidity.

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  9. I know exactly what you are saying when you talk about pathological liars. I dealt with one routinely at my (previous) work for several years. Her manipulations knew no boundaries and she believed in everything that came out of her mouth. It was draining to even be close to her. As to myself, I always strive to be honest but “nuance” my views when a blunter approach would not serve any other purpose but unnecessarily hurt the other person. Much like you say.

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    1. People like my ex and your ex co-worker are very draining aren’t they? I try to be tactful myself, sometimes I don’t always succeed, but I do try. Have a great weekend tiny!

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  10. I’m just now getting a moment to breathe and write a comment. I have this love, hate relationship with company. It’s exhausting. As for Honesty, I will always tell the truth though sometimes I have to choose my words carefully. My mother was blunt and often hurtful. There is a way to tame the truth in a way that’s not hurtful. I taught my children that didn’t get punished as much for their misdeed as for lack of truth. I always went so much easier if they owned up to it. They are still honest despite the personal cost. It always pays off in the end. I just work on the tact end of it but often people read what they want to see, not what you wrote. I can’t tell you how often people see something different than what I though I wrote. We all do the best we can. I’ve never sensed any dishonesty coming from you in your writing so you are doing a grand job. Like the lightness of your new theme. I’m feeling quite heavy myself.:) Wish you warm.

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    1. Hi Marlene! Is your company still there? Oh, I would need my place and solitude back. haha! I’m not sure I could last as long as you did. 😉
      As for tactful, I try my hardest because my mother was not the most tactful person either, she sometimes said things just to hurt and I never want to be like that. I learned a long time ago, lies just beget more lies. I just couldn’t live that way. Too exhausting! You take it easy today. Sunday is for rest. 🙂

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      1. Thanks Jackie. It’s my first day alone and I’ve done very little. Yes, it’s Sunday and I’m resting. My mom had no tact either though it was never her intention to be hurtful. She just had no filter. But I learned to lie from her because she didn’t want to hear the truth. Had to give it up when I had kids. 🙂

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