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Daily Prompt: I Walk the Line

JackieP

Today’s Daily Prompt asks these questions today;

Have you got a code you live by? What are the principles or set of values you actively apply in your life?

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Why yes, I do have a code I live by, thank you for asking. I’ve been in this world for a while now, some might consider me ‘old’, some just middle age. I don’t consider myself either one, but that’s a whole other story.

I have had situations in my life that have shown me at my worst. I’m not proud of those times and thankfully it was way in the past. I’ve grown since then, lived, loved, lost and soaked it all in.

I’ve developed a few codes of conduct that I usually stick with  pretty closely. It’s not something written down in some book. It’s something I’ve developed on my own from just living life. I’ve thought about it and the best description I can come up with is this.

My ‘code’ that I live by is relatively simple.  It’s a combination of the Toltec Agreements, my Native American heritage, and just plain old me.

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Be impeccable with your word: Always say what you mean. Speak with integrity. Don’t gossip and don’t put yourself down. Speak with love, truth and kindness. 

I do try to do this always. I don’t like gossip and I try not to spread any. It’s just a waste of breath, as you don’t know what’s going on in someone’s life. You may hear bits and pieces, but unless you are behind their closed doors you don’t really know. There is usually much more to someone’s story than you hear. And well, Karma, you know, that’s a big one for me. Talk with respect, kindness and truth, and it will never come back to bite your ass later on.

Don’t take anything personally: What someone else does is NOT because of you. They made a choice. What others say and do has nothing to do with you. They are the owners of their own words and deeds and when you accept that, and become immune to others deeds and words you won’t become the victim of needless suffering and hurt.

This one took me a great many years to learn. But it is so true. Everyone has their choices to make, how they make them is up to them. NOT YOU. So next time when someone says to you, “You made me do this”, call them out on their lie and then walk away with your head held high. You didn’t make them do anything, they did it all on their own.

Don’t make assumptions: Don’t be afraid to ask questions or to say what you really want. Talk to others in a clear and concise manner, it avoids misunderstandings, drama and sadness. This alone can be a life changer.

I have learned the hard way that this is true. Don’t be wishy washy on what you want. If you aren’t sure about something, ask questions! Even if those questions are to yourself. Ask them and get answers. Always, Always be honest, especially to yourself. Talk to others in a concise manner. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t say one thing and then do another. Don’t lie. And don’t dramatize what you are saying. Whether in writing or in speaking. No misunderstandings can help you and others not get hurt. And might lead to wonderful things to happen in your world.

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Always do your best: Your best is always going to change. Sometimes daily. Sometimes several times IN a day. Whether you are sick or well, tired or rested. Whatever the circumstance, do your best for that moment and avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.

Yes, yes, yes! Be kind to yourself for one thing. There is enough hardship and criticism in this world, why add to it?  Especially toward yourself? It’s not a good thing to do. Others will follow suit and start criticizing you also. Don’t let that happen. Always do your best or try to. You owe it to yourself to do so. Also, you will feel so good about yourself knowing you did try your best. In my life I have always tried my best at everything I have done. So when something did fail, I knew deep inside it wasn’t because of me. And I could be proud of that fact. Regret is something I have very little of in my life.

 

Do you have a code you live by? If so let me know, as I am always listening and learning.

 

 

 

 

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17 thoughts on “Daily Prompt: I Walk the Line”

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  2. With regard to your second one about other people holding you responsible for things they do, it’s worth remembering as well that we can sometimes take on that responsibility ourselves without it being instigated by the other person. It often happens in couples doesn’t it where one person feels embarrassed or responsible for the way the other has behaved or whatever. I used to feel like that a lot when I was younger and was always making excuses for my boyfriend or my family or friends, and then my mum said to me one day, “Remember that somebody else is a separate person, they are not an extension of your arm” and I’ve always remembered that.

    At the moment I have three things that I’ve picked up along the way that can help me deal with whatever I have to deal with. They’re not a code to live by as such, just wise words that I like!

    1) When the road of life makes you weary of walking, remember your wings.
    2) We are fools whether we dance or not, so we may as well dance.
    3) Trust people to be who they are, not who you want them to be.

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    1. so true Vanessa about sometimes ourselves being the one thinking we are responsible for how others act. I did that for quite awhile until I figured out it really wasn’t the way it should be. sometimes maybe. But usually not.
      Your mum sounds like a wise woman.

      I love your list of wise words. They are indeed something to read and remember.

      thank you so much for stopping in and your comment was wonderful.

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  3. I like your responses Jackie I agree with so much you say. I think it is important in life to come across to others as a person with integrity, that you go through life doing what you can to make the lives of others more enjoyable, more liveable, being tolerant and where possible providing experiences others may grow from.
    I am a firm believer in being responsible for your own actions and even though it is tempting to point the finger of blame at others the bottom line is always your own response, your actions in response to others.
    I also think life is about opportunity. Opportunity can be the smallest simplest thing that impacts on you to life changing opportunity. Seeing opportunity and grasping it is in itself a challenge as so often it can take us way out of our comfort zone.
    Great post, gave me much to think about.

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    1. It took me a long time Michael to realize I must not react to what others choose to do in a negative way. That just makes things more difficult. My ex did a good job in turning things around on me. I learned a lesson though in that. We are all responsible for our own choices, in how we react to what we say.
      And as far as doing what you can to help others, yes that is so the thing to do, karma again comes into play.
      Opportunity is an excellent one to bring up. We must have our eyes, minds, and hearts open to opportunity or we might miss that greatest things to happen to us, around us and for us. And that would be a shame.
      Thank you for your excellent comment.

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  6. That is a wonderful code/guide! What you say under “don’t take anything personally” is very true and I fully agree, but such a hard lesson to learn, at least for me. I try to live guided by very similar values, integrity and kindness probably being my top ones. I hope your weekend has been good!

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    1. It is a hard lesson that I am still learning. It’s hard not to take it personally. My weekend rocked my friend! Hope your’s was as good. big hugs!

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  11. You have some positive codes to live by. Each one of them take a bit of work because in this world we live in it’s so hard to fall into negative behavior. Having a clear conscious and true compassion keeps one stress free. And as you say you don’t have to worry about karma coming back at you.

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    1. It is hard to live by them 100% of the time, but I do try. I fail sometimes as I am human, well last I checked lol
      thank you Kim.

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