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If We Were Having Coffee

JackieP

Good day people!

“If we were having coffee” is the brainchild of Part Time Monster. I first saw this nice casual catch up kind of post by Nerdy of Nerd in the Brain and I’ve been reading them in other blogs also for a while now.

I love the casual, friendly tone of these posts, so I thought I would do one of my own. To read other’s please click on Part Time Monster’s name above and join in! Thanks.

If We Were Having Coffee

If we were having coffee, I’d smile and welcome you to sit a while and relax with your favorite cup of coffee or tea.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you about my busy week of writing. I’ve been trying to finish the last chapter(s) of “Man in the Fedora”, so I can go on and start my April A to Z challenge posts.

I would tell you that I may have bitten off more than I can chew, as my challenge is going to be quite ambitious. I won’t be able to tell you what it is yet, as the reveal date is not till March 23rd.

If we were having coffee, I would confess that this week has been a rather hard one for me as I’ve been trying to get all this done while not feeling well. I might have picked up some kind of stomach bug as my tummy is hurting and I have not felt good all week. I’m even having problems eating and for me that is quite serious! 😉

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that the husband is on a new pain medication as his old one of Percocet’s were not doing the job. These are much more powerful according to the doctor. This is his first week taking them, so we are experimenting on the dosage. This morning he said he is feeling more pain-free, so maybe these will help. Fingers crossed. Of course, we know that it’s only temporary and eventually he will need even stronger. But, for now we will take the good.

If we were having coffee, I would smile and tell you I think Spring has come to my corner of Alberta, Canada! We have been having warm weather with lots of sunshine. The trees are in bud and the birds have been busy. Yesterday it was up to 68F (20c). For the middle of March that is fantastic! I love Springtime.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you about Sam’s day of pampering and how his groomer was super excited because he let her trim his nails. Tammy, Sams groomer has been grooming Sam for about 3 years now. She is super patient and loving towards the little guy. But, for all this time he would not let her (or me) trim his nails. He might be small, but boy is he quick! He will squirm and wiggle and yelp like he is being killed when we would attempt to do his nails. I would have to take him to the vets to get them done.

Wednesday he let Tammy do his nails and she was super excited! The last barrier of his trusting her was finally down. When I first got Sam I made the mistake of taking him to different groomers and they managed to hurt him. So he is not a very trusting little guy. When I found Tammy though I knew she would win him over. She comes to the house pulling her grooming trailer and does a wonderful job with him! I’m so glad I found her.

If we were having coffee, I would admit to you that I have been fighting my depression for several weeks now. I don’t use medications or therapy. Never have. Lately, I have been thinking maybe it’s time I sought some help. Still thinking about it as I take enough medications, I don’t want to take any more. So I fight the good fight. Some days I win, some days I don’t. Being unwell does not make it easier, but I won’t give up. I just keep smiling and moving forward.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that the husband and I had visitors last night. His brother and sister-in-law came over for about an hour or so. I have to admit I enjoyed the company as I know the husband has. We don’t see too many people anymore since the husband became disabled. I think his ‘friends’ are uncomfortable around him now, they don’t know  how to handle his pain that is very apparent, so they stay away. A shame as it’s now that he needs friendship and companionship the most. Why are people uncomfortable around a sickness? It’s not like he complains about it, he is very stoic. Just a wandering thought I would put out there between us.

If we were having coffee, I bet we would have a lot of laughs and good times. I would refresh your cup and we would enjoy our visit. Thanks for stopping in!

 

34 thoughts on “If We Were Having Coffee”

  1. People stay away from me now, my old friends must be uncomfortable I suppose. It hurts.
    I would enjoy having coffee with you. 🙂

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      1. It is. Seems if it wasnt for FB I would never hear from anyone. What a world when you don’t see people for years. Thanks Jackie. ❤

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  2. Jackie, I am sorry you are feeling poorly both with your tummy and your depression. I can only imagine how being stuck in the house caring for your husband who is also unwell would cause your depression to worsen. I do hope you feel better soon.

    So much for the frozen tundra you are having better weather than we are but at least we’ve finally reached the 50s for a few days

    How nice to have had company again. Glad your husband is feeling so relief even if it is only temporary, let’s hope this medication works longer than you believe it will.

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  3. Maintaining the good fight is all you can do apart from seeking help.
    If I were having a coffee with you I’d ask you to pass the sugar…..ave a good day Jackie.

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  4. I loved having coffee with you! And would love to make a cup or two for you one day in real life. I hope the new pain meds will give hubby more better days, and that your tummy gets better soon. Feeling unwell while having so many things to take care of is difficult. You are a fighter, but please seek help when you feel you need it…there’s nothing wrong with that. Many hugs to you, my friend ❤

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    1. I would love to have coffee with you also tiny, in real life! We must make this happen, some how. 🙂
      I will be ok, promise. I think I have a touch of the stomach flu and I don’t do sick well. Hopefully it will be over soon. ❤

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  5. My guess is that people feel awkward around pain because they are not able to do anything about it. I think if we can feel that we can help, we do. But when we think there is nothing we can do to help, we feel strange about it. Kind of like when someone dies and the funeral is over…everyone leaves and few pop in to check on you. If only they realized that by providing some company they are also providing a distraction for the pain, it might be different. Sad.

    I hope you are able to fight your depression on your own terms. But if you are not, I would seek some help. It might be that one little pill a day could make a huge difference.

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    1. Hello Corina and thank you. I think you are right about people, they don’t know what to do or how to act around people who are sick or in pain. So they tend to stay away. It is sad.

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  6. I’m jealous of your weather! Here in Michigan we’ve only made it into the forties. I truly hope this week finds both you and your husband feeling better.
    Thanks for the coffee

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  7. Loved this post, Jackie. If I were having coffee with you I’d be offering advice. Like try a little 1/4 teaspoon of baking soda in a juice glass of water. Drink that and if it doesn’t help, see a doctor. Even the husbands grand kids begged for it when their stomachs hurt because it works so fast. It balances out the PH in the stomach. Then I’d tell you I’m in the same place with the depression. It washed over me like a ton of bricks a week ago.

    I wrote for an hour trying to figure out why now. The answer for me was, I’m not eating well, I’ve not taken my supplements since I moved, (B’s) and I’m not doing any yoga or walking. Another words, I’m no longer at the top of my list. We take care of everyone and everything but ourselves. I also stopped by the store and bought some 5htp to help the sleep and depression. I’m still struggling to do the things I need to do for myself and not sure why.

    But the point is you have a lot of reasons to be depressed, you just need a way to fight back. The weather is taking a turn. I’m getting out more if only to sit outside for a few minutes with the sun on my face. We had sun for a few minutes one day. I’m freer than you to come and go. It’s like coming up with a game plan to win the game of life. I’m still trying too. We can tackle it together,

    It is hard to see anyone in pain. Hugs my friend. I’m rooting for you. And having a cup of coffee with you. Time for a refill. 🙂

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    1. Thank you Marlene. If I had some baking soda I would try it. I’ll see about getting some.
      I’m sorry you are fighting depression also. I think you are right on target about why we both are battling it. We dont take care of ourselves. I’m like you in that I’m not eating right. I am taking my supplements, but I know I’m not eating as I should. Or exercising. It does help that the weather here is getting nicer and the days are longer. So yes, we can tackle this together. You also know I’m just an email away. Hugs back for you Marlene. We’ll win. Yup, time for a refill. 🙂

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      1. When you buy baking soda to ingest, find aluminum free. Bob”s Red Mill makes some and the export to everywhere. You’ll find it in the health food section of your grocery. Sometimes you have to ask. I was researching the difference between 5HTP and SAM-E then opted for the first. Thanks Jackie.

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  8. I’m glad you joined us this week for coffee.

    I think people often shy away from those in pain, especially those they were once close to, because it’s uncomfortable. Seeing others in pain reminds us of how desperately out of our control so many things are, and that’s really difficult. My son was in the NICU when he was a baby, a preemie, and people didn’t know how to act around us, how to deal with our uncertainty and pain or their discomfort.

    I suggest at the very least going in to discuss the possibility of medication. If we fall and break our ankle, we get help. Our mental and emotional health deserves the same care. And medication can be, when it’s the right thing, a real help.

    I hope you find comfort and peace.

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    1. Thanking Diana for those wise words. I do think you are right about people not knowing what to do so they do nothing.
      If things get worse for me I will talk to my dr about talking to someone about things. I have to stay healthy to take care of the husband. Thanks again. I’m sure you will see me around more often.

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      1. I hope so!

        And yes–healthy to take care of husband, and healthy for you. Wishing you the best with the situation, and looking forward to hearing more from you.

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  9. I know how you feel about not wanting more pills. Do you take vitamin D? If not, maybe think about adding just that one. My psych doc has me take it to help boost the other stuff I take. It’s one tiny little guy.

    I’m glad to hear that Sam got his nails done, that’s important for a well dressed pup. 🙂

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    1. I don’t take vitamin D. I think I even have some around here somewhere. I may start taking that and see what happens. Thanks Erin. 🙂

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  10. This post touched my heart. I never realised you suffer with depression sometimes. You are an amazing writer and a great person. Is there a particular thing you get depressed about? I used to suffer with depression for years, but finally managed to free myself of it, just over 3 years ago. I still have to keep myself topped up on positivity and things that make me feel great to stop myself from getting depressed again. I never took meds for it, although most people feel they need to. I think I am a rare case.

    Sorry to hear that your husband’s so called friends are behaving that way. It’s not good. Can he join some groups with people who have shared interests and welcome disabled people, so he can make some new friends?

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    1. Thank you Sandra. I don’t talk about my depression that often, as I”m usually on top of it without meds. I am getting better. I am a firm believer in positive thinking and that always helps. As for the husband, it would be hard for him to join any groups as his pain won’t let him do much. He can’t sit or stand for any length of time, so usually he is flat on his back. But, thank you for the suggestions. I”m also sorry for your loss of your pet. I know it can be heartbreaking.

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      1. Hi Jackie, thanks for your kind wishes about Daisy. Yes, positive thinking is a must and you are doing great. That must be so hard for your husband and you. Keep smiling and being you. YOU are awesome.

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  11. I take permanent Viridian digestive enzymes, twice a day, forever, to stop my digestive problem that my doctor couldn’t stop with 8 tablets a day. I had chest, tummy and rib pain. I kept burping and regurgitating and now my digestion is better than it was before I end up in hospital with gastritis, from the gastroenteritis that I got in the first place.

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      1. I have to have two viridian digestive enzymes, every morning before breakfast and every evening before my meal, for the rest of my life. One, was not enough, I still had pain and couldn’t digest properly. Viridian is more expensive, but potentially allergen free as it’s only made of a cellulose capsule and the enzymes. Nothing else.

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