Wednesday Whatever!

I was looking at my WordPress stats the other day. A rare occurrence for me, as I usually don’t bother with the stats page. If people read my posts that’s great, if not, that’s ok too. I’m not for everyone.

What surprised me was the one post of mine that was the most popular. It’s the open letter to my sister. I posted that letter on November 5, 2014. Since that day it has been read 7161 times. Almost three thousand more times than my second most popular post.

 

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I was floored. Seven thousand, one hundred and sixty-one times, someone has clicked on that post to read it. You know what that tells me? A whole lot of people are wanting to re-connect with their sister. That’s kind of sad.

That one post is consistently the most viewed post…..every. single. day!

Family members are probably the hardest to deal with, especially if there is anger, resentment, misunderstanding and grudges between them. I wrote that letter two years ago because my sister and I had drifted apart. We were no longer talking and I missed her. I didn’t understand what I had done to cause the riff between us. She just refused to talk to me. Granted we were hundreds of miles apart, with her living in Wisconsin and me in Canada. Still, I missed that sisterly connection.

So I wrote her an open letter. I expressed my bewilderment and my love. Hoping, maybe, one day she’d see it and read it. I don’t know if she ever did as she is not on the internet much.

Since my mother died at the end of May this year, my sister and I have started talking again. At first, it was just about my mom, then after she died about her estate. Now, we are talking more like we used to…as sisters. I very grateful for that. It’s just such a shame that it only happened because of the death of my mom. I’ll take it and run with it as I’ve missed her.

Even if one person who looked at that post as inspiration found that connection again with their sister, well then, I’ve made a difference. It was never in my mind to help others with that post, a bit selfish I’m sure but there it is.

So if you can, if you want, keep your family close. I’m trying. Although I have to admit I can and do well without some. But that’s a whole other post. 😉

 

 

 

 

If you were on the outs with a family member, did you reconnect? Or not? Let me know if you’re comfortable doing so!

 

 

 

 

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28 thoughts on “Wednesday Whatever!

  1. Unless you are a geek like me, you are right not to bother looking at the stats page, because appearances there can be very deceiving. There is obviously something in that post that Google ranks high in particular search strings… much like my infamous xxxxxxxxxxxl guy draws in a lot of views for the post I used him in. That’s still an impressive number though, and one none of my posts have yet reached!

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  2. it seems I read your letter to your sister just a few months ago, I can’t believe it was two years ago. Just goes to show there are either a lot of people struggling with family relationships or a lot wanting to move past family problems. I’m really happy for you that you are talking to your sister again but a shame it took the loss of your mother.

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    1. Two years go by too darn fast, Lois. It is a shame that it took my mother’s passing for my sister and I to talk again. But, that’s my family for you. My brothers still won’t talk to me, which suits me fine. I did miss my sister though.

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      1. Yes, it would have been nice had you not lost those years with your sister. Your family isn’t the only one most of my siblings and I are estranged too.

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  3. Its wonderful that you and your sister are connecting again Jackie. I’ve only had one time in my life when my brother and I weren’t talking and I hated it. Thankfully he came round one day and we sorted it out.
    Family are family though and we don’t get to choose them. Sometimes a little distance is a good thing…..

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  4. I’m glad you and your sister reconnected. Those are amazing stats, you never know what intrest people. I hope your words helped others. Family that have good relationships take it for granted, they don’t know how delicate all our relationships are.

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  5. Oh My! I’m glad you’ve reconnected with your sister…and yes, many of us are struggling (or not) with estrangement from family. I suspect I’m permanently estranged from mine, and I’ve accepted that–having made efforts to reconnect which were not successful or satisfying, I’m at a loss to do more…I can’t keep making myself crazy. I do often think of one of my sisters in particular–we were close once–but I’m not sure I miss that time, as I was not healthy at all. People, families often change a lot over time and various circumstances…I guess what I wish is that we could all get on the same page at the same time.

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    1. I’m sorry to hear you are estranged with your family also. My brothers and I still don’t speak and I’m fine with it. We never did much growing up either. Sometimes it’s best to let things be the way they are and have great friends. Wishing you peace.

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      1. Yes, there’s a limit to what we can do–after my last attempt to “fix” things, God told me, “it’s NOT all about you”. That was really helpful, to be reminded that there’s more than one person in a “relationship”. Thanks for the good wishes–you too 🙂

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  6. I had to cut my sister out of my life a few years back because she was toxic and abusive. (In fact, my post about that is the most popular one on my blog. I actually had to step away from my blog for a while because it’s all people wanted to talk about and it wasn’t healthy.) I just recently reached out to her again via a birthday card. My mother says that she has gotten better, so I decided to give her yet another chance. I haven’t heard back from her yet, but if she starts up the abuse again I’m backing off again.

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    1. That’s how I am with my brothers. They are always finding fault with me although they don’t know me as I have been away from ‘home’ for a very long time. So I just refuse to talk to them. My sister is not abusive, I really don’t know why she stopped talking to me. I haven’t asked. Good luck with your sister.

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