Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction

Questions and Answers

Good day People! Hope the week is treating you kindly.

I’ve been trying to come up with a post for a couple of days now. No luck. I could have written about a new story I have percolating in the old brain box but I think it’s a bit too soon for that. Don’t worry, I’ll let you know down the road.

Then I thought about doing a poem. Nothing would come out right. For some reason, I have to be in a certain mood to write poems. Not there.

Then I thought about doing a word fun post. Eh wasn’t interested in that either. Ever get where I’m at? Want to write a post…..can’t think of a damn thing to write about.

So I’ve come up with the good old questions and answers theme…..again. Classic.

Here we go!

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Do you know your heritage?

Yes, I do. At least as I’ve been told. It’s Native American and German. I’ve been tempted lately to get one of those DNA kits and see what it says. How about you?

What was the best compliment you ever received?

I don’t get many compliments but I would have to say the best one was when I was working. A bunch of us ladies always sat together at the same table for lunch and we would discuss everything. I never participated much as I’m not a people person. One time I did and one lady said to the group, “She doesn’t say much but when she does it’s worth listening to.” That made my day and still does when I think about it.

Do you trust anyone with your life?

I’ll have to say…..no. Not even my doctors. I check every pill she prescribes for me to see what they are for and any side effects. As for just regular folks. Um, no, not really. Hell, I don’t even trust me.

Would you lie in court for a close friend if it meant saving your friend from going to jail for life?

Depends. I know I should say sure since they are my close friend but depends on what they’ve done. If it’s murder I’d still say ‘depends’. I mean what if they killed someone who had been abusing them for years? See what I mean…..depends. I’m not like some people and say no one deserves losing their life. Yes, some do. So yes, the answer would have to be yes…..depending on the circumstances.

What question do you hate to answer?

How come you don’t have kids? That question irks me no end. Mostly because I know if I answer honestly I’ll get…..’you don’t know what you’re missing’ soon afterward. Eh, yes I do. I’m missing nothing. Not for me anyway.

What habit are you proudest of breaking?

Smoking. It was a long hard bad habit to break but I did it. Of course I tried dozens of times through the years but finally did it cold turkey almost ten years ago.

Is there something you regret NEVER doing?

I regret never riding on a motorcycle. I had a few chances but was always too afraid to do it. Of course, that’s when I was younger. Now I’m older and braver…..or more stupid. Up in the air about that one.

Who was your first love?

Oh man, that goes back a lot of years. My very first crush in school was a boy named Roy. He was blond and blue-eyed and such a sweetheart. My first serious ‘love’ was the boy across the alley from us. He was older and in the Air Force. His name was Jim, also another blond. He was tall and good-looking and more interested in my sister. ha!

If you had to describe yourself in 3 words…what would those 3 words be?

honest, smart, questioning

How would you describe your best friend in 3 words?

honest, smart, funny

If you could turn into any animal, which one would you be?

A wolf. I love wolves. They are loyal, loving, smart and beautiful creatures.

Now it’s your turn! If you had one question to ask ME, what would it be?

 

There you have it, folks. Please feel free to do your own post with the questions or answer them in the comment box. I’m always interested in learning about you!

 

 

 

 

Humor · nonfiction · Wednesday Whatever! · writing

Wednesday Whatever!

Have you ever gone through your search stats? I’m sure a lot of you have. That’s the stats that show you the searches people have made that landed them on a post of yours.

Just for the heck of it today I thought I would take a peek and see how people ended up on my blog. Some of it is interesting….some bizarre. Some I sit and wonder just like Sweden did with Trump…..”What were they smokin’?”

Here are just some of what I found ~~~

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Now the most searches I found had to do with an open letter I wrote to my sister. Seems a lot of people are trying to reconcile with their sisters. That is either very sad or very hopeful. If you have a sister, give her a call, write a letter, or give her a hug if you can. Wait! Do that after you read my post. ha!

Ok, here are some others I found…..

fucking brath….nine people did this search and reached my blog. WTH?? What does that even mean? Am I missing something? I don’t ever recall writing something with that in it. If anyone knows what this means let me know will ya?

rain…..Hm, I did once write a poem about rain. But, 52 people reached my blog doing this simple search. I don’t know whether to be proud or worried.

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http://www.write a letter to your sister .com……Close but no cigar. My blog is registered under http://www.tobreatheistowrite.com, I did write a couple of open letters to my sister but come on….I’m not an authority on it.

good day unicorn humor….I suppose anytime you see or hear a unicorn it would be a good day. Or a bad drug day…….but some used this search term to come visit me. I have no idea why.

two cup coffee.….First of all, good grammar would dictate that it should be “two cups of coffee”, but eh, I’m easy and I do love my coffee.

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an open letter to my brother to respect all the girls.….Now, this is a search I can get behind! Good for the people who are telling their brother to respect all the girls! Way to go!

silly groundhog….Yes, groundhogs can be silly but I don’t understand why you would come to my blog looking for them.

mandarin language…..It’s my understanding the Mandarin language is one, if not the hardest language to learn. Especially if you come to my blog looking for it!

how to write about a Halloween party…..I did happen to write about a Halloween party but I’m no expert at it. My advice……just sit down and write about the Halloween party that you’d love to go to. You can do it!

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how to write a memo for his making sister.….Well, first I don’t think YOU can make a sister, your parents have to do that. Second, I think your parents don’t need a memo for this….but one can’t be so sure I suppose.

my mom name is……Um, I don’t know. Don’t you know your mom’s name? Hint….it isn’t mom.

how the write 17 of april 2016 in words.…..I have to admit, this one made me laugh. Ok, let’s see if I can explain this one…..You almost have it all written. You just need to make 17 = seventeenth and 2016 into either two thousand and sixteen or twenty sixteen. See how easy that was? Now all together…..Seventeenth of April, two thousand and sixteen. Easy peasy. Hope this helps. (make sure April is capitalized)

 

Hope you have found these as amusing as I have. See you later!

 

 

nonfiction · postaday · Word Fun

Word Fun ~~~ Phobia Words

Today I thought I’d have some word fun. I love words, as most of you know, and I wondered where do we get those strange words for phobias? Yeah, my mind is a strange place….

Anyway, phobias, which are just basically fears, seemed like an interesting topic of conversation. We all have them. If someone says they aren’t afraid of something…they lie.

Now me, I have arachnophobia (fear of spiders) and claustrophobia (fear of closed in spaces), I also have achluophobia (fear of darkness).

What about you? What are you terrified of?

Here’s a list I came up with for words that mean some strange fears. Ok, maybe to those that have these fears they aren’t strange. So I should say, strange to ME fears.

What do you think?

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For all you Vampires out there…. alliumphobia (fear of garlic)

Here’s one of Trump’s fears….allodoxaphobia (fear of other people’s opinions)

Now this one is not one I understand at all…. bibliophobia (fear of books)

My cats have this one…..brontophobia (fear of thunderstorms)

Now, I wouldn’t say I have this fear, I just like to avoid them…..  catoptrophobia (fear of mirrors)

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I wonder how people with this fear go the bathroom?….. coprophobia (fear of excrement)

Another one of Trump’s………criticophobia (fear of critics or criticism)

I know someone who has this….ergasiophobia (fear of work)

I’m not sure what to say for this one….. eosophobia (fear of dawn)

I only have this when I gain too much weight….. geniophobia (fear of chins)

And I know I don’t have this one! ……graphophobia (fear of writing)

I swear there are some people who have this that I know…..hedonophobia (fear of pleasure)

I don’t think anyone who is in the world’s oldest profession has problems with this one…… ithyphallophobia (fear of erect penises)

Ok, I have to admit, I have a bit of this one…… koinoniphobia (fear of rooms full of people)

Know anyone with this one?……  linonophobia (fear of string)

My ex-mother-in-law had this one to the point she would faint if she saw one…..musophobia (fear of mice)

Wonder what someone does if they have to go out in a storm if they have this one?…… nephophobia (fear of clouds)

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Hearing about some….I have no doubt a few people have this one…… novercaphobia (fear of mother-in-laws)

Lot’s of people have this one!……ophidiophobia (fear of snakes)

Do you have this one?……phasmophobia (fear of ghosts)

I know too many people who seem to have this one!……phronemophobia (fear of thinking)

This is one for all those old men in politics who seem to have this one about women! …… prosophobia (fear of progress)

 

 

Hope you enjoyed my little list of fears.

 

 

 

Cee's Share Your World · Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction

Share Your World ~~ Feb. 13, 2017

I did a post last week with a poll. I wanted to know what you wanted to see more of on my blog. As my readers, I want you to keep coming back to visit me.

I had a few answer the poll and the results are in! The biggest vote was you wanted more personal posts. More about me. Well, lucky you, I can accommodate you with the help of Cee’s weekly Share Your World questions. Thanks, Cee!

Also, it seems my readers want more short stories. Or a weekly series of the same ongoing story. I will see what I can do to fill that request also. Stay tuned for more short and flash fiction!

Thank you to all that voted and now let’s get it moving with some personal questions courtesy of Cee……..

 

Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?

Out. I used to sleep with them tucked in but now I need the sheets tucked out. Ever since I became diabetic I can’t stand anything holding my feet down, like sheets. So none of my blankets or sheets are tucked in.

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Have you stolen a street sign before?

Almost. When I was married to the ex we once stopped and tried to steal a street sign. I think because it had our last name on it. He couldn’t get it off the pole so I convinced him to leave it. I would have felt guilty if we had gotten away with it, so glad we didn’t.

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Do you cut out coupons but then never use them?

I used to use coupons a lot. Now, no. The place I shop at has weekly sales and I buy a lot of generic brands so usually the coupons I find I wouldn’t use as they wouldn’t help me save money.

 

Do you have freckles?

No, I don’t. I’ve been genetically blessed with clear nice skin. My siblings not so much…… I never got much acne and never had freckles.

 

 

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Blogging · nonfiction · postaday

Some Questions for You

Hello, folks.

On Tuesdays, I’ve been doing some tongue twisters. It’s fun, for a little while anyway. I was wondering if you guys have any preference in what I do on here. I know I have a couple of loyal readers who seem to read anything I post. Thank you!

But….I was wondering what readers want to see on here. More stories? More flash fiction? More personal stuff? More fun with words kind of stuff. What?

I’m more than open to ideas and suggestions. So I made a poll. I think it’s like only my second or third poll I’ve done on here and I’ve been here for almost five years now. WOW…..god that seems like a long time.

Anyway, I would appreciate it if all my readers take a second and fill out my poll. Come on….I’m not asking much….really.

 

 

 

 

Thanks for helping me out!

Love you guys!

 

 

Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction · postaday

Questions and Answers

Good Thursday, Folks! (Unless you are ahead or behind, then good Friday, Wednesday!) I like covering my bases…..

Today I thought we would have a bit of fun. Goodness knows with all the doom and gloom we need some. The world has gone crazy, folks. Just crazy. I’m gettin’ off the crazy train for a day. Want to join me?

Almost buried under all the political stuff on Facebook, there was a question and answer thing going around. I always like them things. So, I thought I would do that today.

You can do a post yourself, or just answer them in the comments. I love getting to know you better.

Ok, here we go…..

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1. Who are you named after?

No one that I know of. My mom was into French names at the time. My sister is Nadine and my mom wanted to name me Jacqueline. She shortened it to Jackie because she thought Jacqueline would be too hard for a little kid.
2. Last time you cried?

Probably yesterday. I cry all the time. I’m a crying machine. Actually, I’m just stressed and emotional lately so everything makes me cry. I can cry at a sad picture, a commercial, just about anything.
3. Do you like your handwriting?

Most of the time. My mother had really fancy handwriting and I used to copy hers when I was young. So now my handwriting can get fancy most times. When I’m tired or my arthritis is acting up it gets a bit messy.
4. What is your favorite lunch meat?

I don’t eat a lot of processed food. When I do eat lunch meat it’s usually bologna. Or salami.


6. Longest Relationship? 

The one I’m in now. Will be 16 years in September. 


7. Do you still have your tonsils?

Sure do. The only thing I don’t have is a gallbladder. And some people say a heart…but don’t believe everything you hear about me. 


8. Would you bungee jump? 

No. That’s the short answer. I have weak ankles. With my luck, I’d break both ankles from the bungee cord. 


9. What is your favorite kind of cereal? 

Cheerios or Shredded Wheat


10. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off? 

No. But then they don’t have shoelaces. They are the velcro kind. 


11. Do you think you’re strong? 

Physically…no…not anymore as I’m an old woman. Mentally, yes.


12. Favorite ice cream? 

I don’t really eat ice cream anymore. Diabetic. I like the frozen yogurt they have out now. 


13. What is the first thing you notice about someone? 

The eyes. They really do say a lot. 


14. Football or baseball?

Neither. I’m not a sports fan. 


15. What color pants are you wearing? 

Blue jeans


16. Last thing you ate? 

Chicken strips. Baked, better for me. 


17. What are you listening to? 

The husband is watching TV and the furnace is running.


18. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? 

This one is harder than you would think. I love purple but I’m not really in a purple mood. Hm, I will say……beige…just eh.


19. What is your favorite smell? 

I have several. Lemon, green apple or lilac. 


20. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? 

I don’t talk on the phone often. Last live person, I talked to was a nurse at the doctor’s office for the husband. 


21. Married? 

Oh god am I……..


22. Hair color? 

Reddish light brown with a whole lot of silver. My bangs are silver and I have a wide streak of silver on the left side. Hm, hell, maybe I should have just answered silver and let it go at that. 


23. Eye Color? 

Well, according to most people my eyes are blue. I don’t see it myself. My driver’s license says gray. They change. I’m weird. 


24. Favorite food? 

Mexican food. The good stuff. The main reason  I miss Texas is their TexMex food. 


25. Scary movies or happy endings? 

I don’t watch movies. Especially scary ones, so I guess it will have to be happy endings.


26. Last movie you watched? 

See the above answer. The last movie I watched in a theater was Saving Private Ryan. Now you know how old that one is. 


27. What color shirt are you wearing? 

Blue. It’s a blue kind of day.


28. Favorite holiday? 

Halloween. I love it. Christmas is a close second. 


29. Beer or Wine? 

Neither. I don’t drink alcohol.


30. Night owl or morning person? 

When I was younger, I was a morning person. I loved early mornings when the sun was rising. Now, I’m a night owl. Only until about 10 pm though. Then I’m a bed person…….I did mention I was old.


31. Favorite day of the week?

Any day I’m still breathing.

 

 

 

Blogging · Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction · postaday

Kicking 2016 to the Curb

I hate to sound ungrateful. Really, I do….but I will be SO glad to see the end of 2016!

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I can’t wait for this horrible, terrible, bad year to come to an end. Can’t come soon enough for me. Not that I’m bitter……..

This was the year that the husband fought cancer, got sick on chemo treatments and was in and out of the hospital so many times I got to know the hospital’s emergency unit way too well.

My mom passed away. I miss her. We didn’t always see eye to eye on things. Ok, hell, we hardly ever did but she was my mother and the last few years we got close for the first time in our lives and then I lost her. Figures.

The husband and I fought the bureaucratic offices for any kind of help we could get just so we wouldn’t go without food or important medications. It was a hard, long fight but we won in the end.

Many good singers, actors, and people died this past year and much too early in life.

This was the year I saw an egotistical, hate spewing, bigot with a very limited and sometimes made-up vocabulary become the president-elect of the USA. I feel so scared for my home country and wince when I think of what is to come. (This is the only time you will ever read how much I dislike, distrust and abhor Trump on this blog. I keep my politics to myself)

Because of the constant stress, my health is not the best. I am a fighter, though, a survivor so I will get better and stronger this coming year.

I hardly wrote anything worthwhile. My plans for coming out with a few new books fell to the wayside with a loud thump. I could barely keep up with this blog, much less new books. It made me feel so…..wasteful. Wasteful of time and energy and my dreams.

Yes, 2016 was a terrible year. But, like all things it is temporary. A new year is fast approaching and I welcome it with a hopeful heart and a wistful soul.

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This coming year is when I plan to turn a few corners. With my health and with my writing.

I never make New Year’s resolutions. That’s just asking for failure. I have made a list of some things I want to work on this coming year.

Writing

Health

Diet

Mental health

These are just a few things I want to change for the better. I want to write those books. Lose those pounds. Become happier. Get my health back.

And take more time for my friends.

So, here comes 2017! About fricking time!

 

 

 

 

My Incomplete List of Small Pleasures · nonfiction · postaday

My Incomplete List of Small Pleasures ~~ Dec. 15, 2016

I have to admit to feeling a bit blue lately. Ok, a lot. I do get melancholy sometimes. I think we all do.

For the past month or more, it’s been more than melancholy for me. Like many people I usually get a bit down this time of year. A bit sad, a bit reflective. My mood has been even more than that. It borders on depression.

I had depression years ago. I mean I was down that dark, deep hole of blackness so far I thought I would never crawl out.

I did crawl out, though. It took me several years, a divorce and suicidal thoughts (not necessarily in that order)….but I did it. I crawled out and never crawled back in. I’ve been close to the brink of that hole a few times. I always caught myself before I fell in.

Many people see me as a strong woman. I don’t consider myself strong. I consider myself a survivor. Plain and simple. I survived my abusive childhood. I survived a rotten first marriage to a man bent on destroying me. I survived several attempts on my life. I survived….I survive…..I am a survivor.

But, am I strong? I don’t know. Most days I don’t think so. I certainly don’t feel it.

So today, I felt the need to write down some things I’m grateful for. Something for my soul to hold on to. Something to help this emotional cripple to keep waking up every morning. I find it helps…..sometimes.

I will not fall down that black hole.

 

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Friends. They make me smile even when I don’t feel like it. They make me think with the words that they write. They make me feel like maybe….just maybe….I’m not alone after all.

My dog Sam. He cuddles with me every night. He helps me feel like I mean something to someone, even if it’s just a small 8lb dog. Most days he’s the only other living thing that ever physically touches me.

Distractions. Books, blogs, writing, things that make me come out of my shell and look at things differently. Sometimes it helps to have a different perspective.

Optimism. Even though I’ve been staring at that deep, dark hole lately, in my heart there beats my optimism. I will be ok. Things will be ok. My life can change on a whim. It has before, it will again. Usually for the better. All things are temporary.

The holiday season. Even though I tend to get a bit down this time of year, my heart sings at all the good things that usually come out of this holiday season. The cheerful lights. The jolly Santa’s. The ever-present snowmen. The feeling in the air that things might….just might….improve. Human nature’s spirit is unquenchable. Even if this past year has been damn hard for many reasons for many people we as humans keep trying to move forward to make this a better place. The bigger the obstacles the more determined we are to overcome them.

 

So make your own list of small pleasures, even if it’s just in your own head and heart. It still makes a difference.

 

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Christmas · His Days (about the husband) · Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction

News, Updates and a Christmas Question

Hello, People!

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First the news and updates. The husband and I have been doing the doctor rounds again. Nothing serious! Just his six-month cancer checkup and trying to get him some help for his back pain.

Good news….he is now officially cancer free and in complete remission! He has had a CT scan and a few months ago he had another colonoscopy and it showed him completely cancer free. Whew! That was a relief I can tell you. I know he was worried about it. Who wouldn’t be?

The husband has arthritis on the spine with the added complication of a number of spurs there too. We have been trying for years to get him more help for the immense pain he is constantly in. Yesterday we finally were able to get in to see a specialist for this. With the combined efforts of his general MD and help from a home care nurse, we got an appointment with this specialist yesterday.

It was almost an all day affair but it’s something we got used to this last year with his cancer. First off to the hospital lab for blood work, then to X-rays for….well, x-rays, then finally in to see the specialist. He asked a million questions, examined the husband and asked me a million more questions. Bottom line….the doctor wasn’t sure if he could help the husband. He ordered a more invasive x-ray done of the spine with a special dye and then we go back to see the specialist in about a month.

So, the husband is still on strong pain meds (which were prescribed even stronger) and we won’t know if any other procedures or meds will help his situation for another month.

It’s a beginning though and we are grateful for that!

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Now for the Christmas question.

I wanted to know who would like a Christmas card? A real, paper, Christmas card showing up via snail mail?

I am going to be making out my cards this weekend and wanted to know if any of my new friends and readers would like me to add them to my list? I have a number of you from the year before last when I started my list for Christmas cards but I know some of you have moved and a few of you are new(ish) to my blog.

Let me know in the comments if you would like a card and I’d be more than happy to send you one!

Me, personally, I LOVE getting things in the mail. It makes my whole day when I do!

If you would like one from me, Sam and the gang just let me know and I’ll contact you for your address! Also, if you’d like to send me one and don’t have my address, let me know that too and I’ll send you my address!

I didn’t do this much last year as it was not a good time for me then but this year will be different. I’m feeling much more…..un-stressed, I guess you could say.

Which is a good thing. So let’s have a Merry Christmas ya’ll!!

 

 

 

Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction

When I Was Young

 

After my mother died in May of this year, my sister sent me a small box of photos that were my mom’s. I was happy about that because before that I had no photos at all of me or my family.

The reason I had no photos is a long story, best suited for some other time.

In the pictures that my sister sent me, I found a few of them of myself when I was just a small child. Wow, was that a long time ago!

I thought it would be fun to show you what I looked like way back then. I couldn’t believe I had ever been that small……..

I promised my good friend Mer that I would share a few pictures. I even have some of my mom and dad from a long time ago. I’ll share those at a later date.

Now, don’t laugh too hard at me…….

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This first one is of me in Kindergarten. I must have been about 5 or 6 then. Don’t you just love those bangs? haha!

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This picture was about sixth grade I believe. To tell you the truth, I’m not sure. My dad kept this picture in his wallet for many years, that’s why it’s in such bad shape. Again with the bangs.

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As you can see, this one was taken in 1969, I was 14 then. I also had short hair for about the last time in my life. My mom made me cut it short. I hated it. We were also living in the much-haunted house at that time. My regular readers will know about it. My mom is next to me and my little brother in front of me. He was 12 then. My dog Chang in my lap. He was a blond Pekingese. I loved that dog and he hated everyone but me and dad.

 

So there you have it. I very young me! Such a long time ago. Sigh………