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Taking a Walk on The Dark Side

Hello, People!

Today I’m going to let you see a bit of the dark side of me. My friend Mer, over at Knocked over by a feather did a post recently where she answered some dark questions she found on a different website. So today I thought I would answer some questions of my own.

I think everyone has a dark side. A part of them that is capable of dark deeds. Not necessarily evil or bad deeds just acts that you wouldn’t normally do or sometimes things that you would never think you would ever do. Life has a way of testing you…how much you can handle…how dark you can get to survive.

Most of us would shock ourselves in what we would be willing to do if we were forced to make a decision. If it was a ‘you or them’ situation. I’m going to try to be as honest as I can with the answers. Truthfully, though…One never knows what a person is capable of until the choices are in front of you in a real life drama but I will do my best.

The questions come from this website….here.




Would you rather know the date of your death or the cause of your death?

I think I would rather know the date rather than the cause. That way I could live my life to the fullest which I should be doing anyway, I know, but knowing the date somehow would make it more real.

Do you like the taste of blood?

Um, no! I would make a terrible vampire. I hate the coppery taste.

Would you rather bleed out or be set on fire?

Well, neither really but if I had to choose let me bleed out as I understand it’s fairly painless. You basically get really tired and then go into a permanent sleep. Sounds a whole lot better than being a crispy critter.

What would you do to defend yourself if someone broke into your house?

I always have a plan in the back of my head of what to do in case of emergencies. One for fire, one for break-ins. I usually have something in each room that can be used as a weapon. You might be surprised what things can be used as a weapon. When I lived in Texas I had guns. I’m an excellent markswoman. I usually hit what I aim at. Now that I live in Canada, I don’t have a gun. In my bedroom I have a metal pole, which can be lethal if used right. As for what would I do….well I already know what I would do as it has happened to me before. I would fight and I would fight dirty and would hurt the person who broke in if possible. I’ve shot at people who attempted to break in. I’ve set dogs on people who wanted to break in. I would not hesitate to hurt someone. I might be old and a small woman but believe me I know what I am capable of.

If someone you loved committed a gruesome murder, would you help them cover it up?

It depends on the circumstances. Was the person they killed a bad person? Were they trying to kill the person I loved first? Was it self-defense? Either way, probably not. It’s hard to get away with killing someone. Easier to give yourself up and just confess then try to get away with it.

If you were trapped on an island, would you rather resort to cannibalism or die of starvation?

If I had any other choice I would rather not do either. Truthfully, this is one of those questions that you can’t really know the answer to until you are in that situation. Sure, you might be grossed out at the thought of eating another human being but when you are starving you would be amazed at what you would eat to survive. I’d like to think I wouldn’t eat another human being just to live…but I might, as the survival instinct is very strong in me and I know this. There are very few islands that have no living creatures on them in some form, also, you are surrounded by water with fish and stuff in it. I would hope I’m smart and resourceful enough not to have to resort to cannibalism.

Have you ever seen a ghost, a spaceship, or anything else you couldn’t rationally explain?

Yes. As many of my long-term readers know, I’ve seen ghosts. In fact, I live with one. So no big deal. I’ve also seen things that I can’t explain. That doesn’t make them any less real. My life has been full of unexplained phenomenon. I’m weird that way.

Have you ever had a dream about killing someone?

Oh yeah, lots of times. I would dream of how, when, where, and how much I would enjoy it. It would be extremely painful for them too. If anyone has been abused in their life, they have dreamed of killing someone.

If you came back as a ghost, whose life would you make a living hell?

I think I had an evil smile when I read this one. I have a list. If there is any way I CAN come back I am. (insert evil laugh here)

If you could ask the devil a question, what would it be?

What the hell is wrong with you???




Hope you enjoyed this post. I should have saved it for Halloween…….

What would some of your answers be? 









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Free Book and Catching Up

Hello, People!

Hope everyone is having a great Friday. The kids are back in school and fall is in the air. At least here it is. Autumn has one foot in the door and soon both feet will be firmly planted in my little corner of Canada.

The sky is a deeper blue and the trees have started to change. Speaking of trees. Can a person mourn a tree? I ask because I think I am. The neighbors had a beautiful huge tree in their yard and it was cut down the other day.

I loved that tree.

I mourn for thee!
I mourn for thee!



I don’t know why they cut it down. Well, to be precise, the neighbors didn’t cut it down as we who live in this mobile home park don’t own the land we live on. We rent it. We own the houses but we don’t own the land. The owner had the wonderful tree cut down. I don’t think it was sick. At least it didn’t look sick to my layman’s eyes. It was tall and majestic with lots of leaves. It wasn’t losing branches, even in the strong winds we got. At least not that I noticed.

Now it’s gone. I’m sad that it’s gone. I loved watching the birds flutter in and out of its branches. The leaves turned a majestic gold in the Autumn. I mourn that tree. It seemed such a waste to cut it down.

Moving on.

My friend Mer and I have started a new blog. I’m sure you’ve noticed me repost from it this week. The Thrifty Divas is a blog that we hope will help people on a budget like we are. We plan on having tips on buying on a budget, recipes, and other fun stuff. Give us a read if you haven’t already. It’s going to be a blog for those of us that are poor but proud. We all need help with living well on little. Come join us!

Today Mer has a great post on ‘5 Things to do with 5 bucks’.

Other news.

Today through Monday my book A Case of Deceit is free on Kindle! It’s my birthday Monday the 12th and I thought I would once again offer my book for free to everyone. Just click on the sidebar on the book and it’ll take you straight to Amazon where you can order it for free. Enjoy and please…..if you do read it please leave a review! Even a short one will do. Thanks!



Do you have plans for the weekend? Let me know! I’m nosy that way. 😉





Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction · Uncategorized

I Need Help With Amazon!

I need some help dealing with Amazon. I’ve tried emailing them, talking to them on the phone and emailing them some more. Maybe someone out there has some suggestions on what I should do.

It all started almost a month ago. My Amazon account was hacked into and hijacked by someone with the email of … hockey.puck@yahoo.com. They managed to change my password and so I wasn’t able to get into my Amazon account. So I emailed Amazon customer service and explained in detail what happened. They sent me back an email saying to just go ahead and change my password. So I tried.


I'm beyond done!
I’m beyond done!


I should have received an email stating that I changed my password. I didn’t. I also never received an email about this hockey.puck person changing the email and password of my account. So I emailed Amazon again and said I never received confirmation that I changed my password. They emailed me back and said that’s because all emails were going to my new email address…..hockey.puck. Sighhhhhh.

I emailed back and stated again that hockey.puck wasn’t my email! That it was the email of the hacker. I needed this person off my account so I could get my account back. They said it was easier just to close the account and open a new account with my email. Ok, I could do that. So that’s what I did. I tried using my email that I used before as it is my main email account. Guess what? I can’t use it as it says my account has been closed so I am no longer able to use this email. So I write customer service and tell them this. I get an email back stating I should be able to open another account with my email. So I try again. Ok, fine. It works. Sort of.

I was able to open an account but because they closed the old one I no longer have access to my Author account. So now my two books are out there without their mother. They are lonely and scared. And this hockey.puck character has control of them.

So I decide to call Amazon customer service instead. Maybe if I talk to a live person and explain the situation I can get my babies back. The person I talked to was very apologetic and said they will send my account to the technical department to straighten things out. They should contact me within 24 hours. So I wait.

I receive an email from them stating that they closed my account….again. But nothing about my books or my author account. So I still couldn’t get into them to either delete them out of Amazon and start fresh or to access my old author account. So I called again. I also wrote another email.

They told me to just open a new account. Fine, I would except my two books are already listed in my old author account. It would be too confusing to have them listed twice, even if both times I’m still listed as the author.

So now what? I’ve tried calling again and just get the same thing. My account will be sent to someone. They keep sending me the same damn email! Yet, nothing is done. I am going to try to call again. I’m not sure if it will help or further confuse them. I want my books back! I can’t see any reports….nothing. I know I don’t sell alot of them, but they are still my babies and I want them back!

Anyone have any suggestions? Ideas?


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I feel melancholy today. Not quite depressed, not quite happy. An in-between place.

Melancholy. A somewhat old-fashioned word meaning ‘sad in spirit’. Yeah, that’s me. Sad in spirit.

At first, I wasn’t going to write about it. After all, I’m kind of known for my optimism, my forgiving outlook on life. That optimism is still there, just buried right now under the melancholy.

Maybe it’s the weather. Humid, warm, overcast. But, I don’t think it is the weather that’s causing this. It’s more like life is causing this feeling of heaviness in spirit. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older and I feel the years settling in my bones. Knowing my time here is limited and wondering if there’s anything next.

I feel melancholy today.

I do the same things every day. I have a pattern in my life. I have a routine. I never used to. When I was younger I did things on impulse. I quickly made up my mind and just did things. If there were consequences to my decisions I paid them and went on. I was young. I was brave. I was determined.

Now I feel old. I feel tired. I feel weighted down by obligations and routines. Yet, somehow those same things make me feel…safe. Like if I stick with my routines, my patterns, I’ll be ok. I’ll be happy, I’ll be…alive.

Like cleaning the cat box, doing the dishes, feeding the animals, taking out the trash is going to keep me in a safe cocoon of happiness.

I feel melancholy today.

I’ve been thinking of a question my sister asked me last weekend. She asked, “Do you have happy memories of mom?” That question made me sit back in surprise. Then I had to think of my childhood, my teenage years, my life now. My sister waited on the other side of the phone. It was a question I never expected.

My mom and I very rarely got along. Ever. So, I had to be honest with my sister. I told her…..”No, not really and that’s sad.” I heard her sigh as she said she didn’t have many happy memories either.

My mother was a…complicated woman. She favored my brothers. Always did. We all knew that. I didn’t hold it against her. I knew who she was, I loved her anyway.

I feel melancholy today.

I don’t think my mother is the cause of my melancholy. I don’t think growing older is the cause. Maybe there is no cause. Maybe everything is the cause.

That’s the nature of the beast. Not just one thing. Everything.

I feel melancholy today.


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Author interview: Kara Jorgensen

Here is the first interview in the 2016 2K Indie Book Tour put on by Kate Evans and Kate M. Colby! I will be showcased on Friday the 12th! Come join us as we visit different genres and authors. It’s going to be loads of fun.

Scarborough Mysteries

It is time to kick off our 2K international indie book blog tour 2016 (hosted by Kate M Colby http://katemcolby.com http://katemcolby.com & me, Kate Evans). I am delighted to welcome our first indie author for interview, Kara Jorgensen.

KaraK picKara Jorgensen is an author of fiction and professional student from New Jersey who will probably die slumped over a Victorian novel. An anachronistic oddball from birth, she has always had an obsession with the Victorian era, especially the 1890s. Midway through a dissection in a college anatomy class, Kara realized her true passion was writing and decided to marry her love of literature and science through science fiction or, more specifically, steampunk. When she is not writing, she is watching period dramas, going to museums, or babying her beloved dogs.

Here she introduces her book,  The Earl and the Artificer (Ingenious Mechanical Devices #3), a historical fantasy novel.

What mysteries…

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Mi Vida Loca · nonfiction · postaday · Uncategorized

A Request and a Little Fun

Hello, people! I hope your week was a good one and soon the weekend will be here so cheer up!

Now on to business. I had a brain flash last night. That’s FLASH people….not fart….geesh. Anyway, back to my thoughts. Most of you have read on my blog about my mother. We have not always been friends like we are now. But, that’s in the past and now we seem to be pretty good friends. Must be the old age in both of us. ha!

Anyway, my mother is having her 86th birthday toward the end of the October. For a woman who has a lot of health problems that’s quite an accomplishment. The last ten or twelve years have not been easy on her. We lost my father to prostate cancer about 12 years ago. At one time before he died they were BOTH fighting cancer battles. My dad with his prostate cancer and my mother had colon cancer for the second time. She beat it again… my father wasn’t so lucky. His death was a major blow to her after more than 60 years of marriage.

Mom also had a pacemaker put in a few years ago. She is also on dialysis every other day as her kidneys no longer function. She’s one tough woman, the strongest woman I know. Throughout everything, she still manages to keep her sense of humor. Don’t get me wrong…she is still a woman you wouldn’t want to cross…but she has gotten more mellow with age. I love her a lot. I hope I get to her age with my mind still intact like hers and with a zest for living that she has.

JLPhillips 2013 (c)
MOM! JLPhillips 2013 (c)


The reason for this post…this year I would like to do something really special for  her birthday. Something that she can talk about for months at the hospital in the Dialysis unit to keep her nurses and doctors entertained with every other day. But, since I’m broke and can’t buy her favorite diamonds I’ve thought of something else. Something that will make her happy and glad to be alive. But, I need your help. Here’s my idea…

I would like to have all my friends, blogging buddies and anyone else who wants to join in the fun to send her a birthday card. It doesn’t have to be fancy or elaborate. It doesn’t even have to be a birthday card! Just a nice note saying hi, wishing her well and to show her people in the world do care about the elderly and strangers. She has also been told by her dialysis doctor that she needs to gain some weight. So she asked me to send her a few recipes. She still loves to cook and does quite often. So I would also like you all to include your favorite recipe for her. She loves collecting recipes and has most her life. She would be absolutely bowled over with this! 

I thought I would call it ‘Operation Birthday Card for Mom‘. So what do you say? Will you help me out? This is how I thought I could work it….

YOU send ME the card and recipe. It can be in a separate envelope that I will send to her.

At the end of the month, I will put all the cards and recipes in one big packet and send them to her all at once. I wish I could be there when she opens the package and sees all the love and care that complete strangers shower over her. She will be the envy of the town! 🙂 And believe me, the town is small and everyone knows everything that is going on.

Also, if you would please repost on WordPress, Facebook, Twitter and any place else you can think of! The more the better! I want her to be reading cards and recipes for weeks! She will so love this!

Quite a few of you already have my address, but if you don’t just say so and I will send it to you via email or Facebook message.

So come on! Help make an 86-year young woman happy! Please? Let’s make this a birthday she won’t forget! Especially if she receives cards from all over the world! And remember….good Karma is always a plus. 🙂

You guys rock! Thank you.

And remember to repost! 🙂

(PS….I forgot to tell you her name! It’s Neva Jean Roeder) Thank you Vanessa for reminding me that you all need her name! 🙂

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Silly Sunday ~~~ Unicorn Appreciation Day Edition!

January 11 has been declared Unicorn Appreciation Day by our very own Fishy at Fish of Gold. So in honor of that day, today’s edition of Silly Sunday is for all Unicorn lovers everywhere! Hope you enjoy!











I also want to thank everyone who has donated to my fundraiser! You guys are the best! I deeply appreciate any and all help. If you don’t know about it yet, please go click on the sleeping lady in my sidebar, it will take you to my fundraiser page and that tells you all about it! I am so touched that so many of you have helped already. My heart is full. ❤






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With A Little Help From My Friends

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mmm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mmm, gonna try with a little help from my friends


I’m sure most of us recognize these lyrics from the Beatles hit “With a little help from my friends.”

This is a hard post to write, but I can’t see any other choice right now. I’m asking for help, from my readers, friends and even strangers. I’m not good at this, so bear with me please.

I wrote a post a little while back about goals for this year. My number one goal was to get a new mattress, as the one I have is broken down. I call it ‘the mattress from hell’. I said it in a light-hearted manner. But it’s anything but lighthearted. This mattress is terrible. I hurt worse when I get up in the mornings than when I go to bed at night. I haven’t had a decent night’s sleep in almost 2 years.

On one side it has a big dip, where the springs were broken in moving. The other side is higher. It’s not half and half either. The high side is about 1/3 of the bed, the broken side is the biggest part. If I lay on one side, I’m laying in a hole. I’ve put a folded up blanket on the mattress to try to fill in the dip. Doesn’t really work.  There really is no laying on the high side, as it’s too narrow, so if I try I roll down into the dip. Like I said, the bed from hell.

I jokingly said I was going to start a Kickstarter campaign to raise funds for a new mattress. At the time, even I thought I was kidding. As the days (and nights of torture) passed, I began to really give this idea some serious thought. I had a few blogging buddies tell me, ‘go ahead! Do it!’. So, I am.

I see no other way to come up with the funds to purchase a new mattress. I wish I did.

Most of you know that my husband is disabled and that we live on a very limited budget. There is just no room for a new mattress. There isn’t even room in the budget to save for one!

The reason I have decided to start a fundraiser is simple. I need my sleep. I need to stay healthy so I can take care of my husband and the household. There is no one else around that can do it. Just me. I’m starting to develop health problems related to bad sleep on a bad mattress. I can’t afford to be sick. We have applied to various agencies for help. We have gotten very limited help so far. We are still trying. I won’t give up.

In the meantime, I have been thinking about how I could afford a new mattress. This is what came to mind. I set up the fundraiser page late yesterday afternoon. There is a button on my sidebar that you can click that will take you to the fundraiser page. There I explain why I started it and how much I would like to raise. All monies will go through PayPal, which is super easy to send money from. It’s accepted worldwide and has an excellent reputation.


It’s a modest sum, actually. I’m trying for a thousand dollars. I’ve got it marked for March 31, as the end date. So, in less than 3 months I am hoping I can raise enough for a new mattress. Anything I might possibly get over the thousand will be earmarked for a new refrigerator, as ours is dying fast.

At first it might seem a bit frivolous, but believe me, lack of sleep is anything but frivolous. Anyone, who has insomnia knows this. Anyone, who has sleep issues knows this. I certainly do!

This is where you, my readers and my friends come in. I’m asking for donations. Every little bit helps. I’m also asking for reblogs, or any other form of passing this on.

It’s not easy asking for help. I’ve always taken care of myself. Now, I have a disabled husband to think of also. Plus a dog and two cats. My fur babies. My responsibilities.

So, please dear friends, if you can help, do so. If not, I understand completely. If you can’t help money wise, maybe a reblog, send it out further into the wide world of internet. I deeply appreciate any and all help!

So click the sleeping woman button over there ———————->

I can get by with a little help from my friends.

A good friend emailed me a few days ago and suggested I start a fundraising page. They also said if I reach my goal, it might be fun to take a video of the shopping experience and purchase of the new mattress. What do you think? I think it would be fun too! I can bring you along for the shopping experience! After all, if it wasn’t for you guys, I wouldn’t be shopping for one in the first place!